Our families need a technology detox program to step away from digital devices and focus on their relationships – smartphone addiction is a very real problem in today’s society, and the sooner families can address it, the easier things will be.
Now, it’s important to remember that we’re not encouraging the elimination of all technology. There are many perfectly valid uses for mobile phones, and teens who think we’re just anti-technology are more likely to rebel than think about improving their relationships.
Instead, we’d like to focus on helping everyone in the family see the phone as nothing more than a phone – it’s not their friend, it’s not important to their self-image, and it’s certainly not worth paying attention to when there are other things happening.
The Simple Technology Detox Strategy
A technology detox plan should be started as early as possible – if family members are never addicted in the first place, they won’t need to recover from anything! Unfortunately, many families are already past that point, so you’ll have to set a few rules in place. Do not be afraid to set the rules for your family, either and there are times when some sort of discipline is critical for a child’s development.
Here are some of the things you can do to implement a detox plan:
- Establish Phone-Free Zones. There are times when using any type of phone is completely inappropriate, and everyone in your family should be on the same page here. Phones should not be allowed during meals, at church, during most events, or beyond certain times of the day (such as after dinner). Start thinking of evenings as a time to be together – watching a movie together might be appropriate, but having everyone scattered and doing their own thing is not.
- Start Small. It can be hard to do a detox all at once, so try creating small goals that you can work on meeting until they become a habit. As always, the earliest days will be the toughest – but once you’ve changed your entire lifestyle, keeping it going will be so much easier.
- Keep Things Out Of Bedrooms. Few things are more conducive to technology addiction than having all of it in your bedroom! Keep the tech – computers, phones, and everything else – out in public areas. Checking messages should be something done once or twice a day, not every five minutes. In fact, consider setting a specific time to check each day.
- Stop Using Phones For Everything. There’s no need to document every moment of your life with your phone’s camera. The more each device is seen as a basic tool instead of the solution to every problem, the easier it is to stop picking it up. Try uninstalling every feature you don’t truly need and going without them for awhile.
Smartphones and other pieces of technology should be seen as a privilege, not something we have an intrinsic right to be using every moment of the day – and detoxing from their presence can help everyone start focusing on family again.
Hi Marina, this is so true. Technology is a curse as well as a blessing. We must be the ones in control and not the other way round, but what I’ve noticed is the way people expect my phone to be constantly with me or seem shocked that I never saw their latest photos of FB or Instagram. I do enjoy social media when it suits me and not the other way round (which is probably why I haven’t amassed 1000’s of followers!). I can see how teenagers get dragged into the whole technology thing, feeling they have to be contactable 24/7, but it is wrong and not healthy. My daughter chats with her friends on her phone, luckily she’s not into social media, it is her actual school friends and they stay in contact with a phone package…. Phones are not allowed at the dinner table and or when we are with people… On the plus side, I do like the fact that phones reduce worries when the children are out and about. Mine are now 21 & 18 (almost), but I still like knowing they can phone anytime they have a problem with lifts or when plans change… Maybe there should be a technology free day or two introduced into the week!
xx